Valuing Every Human Being

In our daily life, we often interact with various individuals comprising of people we meet in the streets, shops and even in our workplace. What determine how we treat them? Does it depend upon how well you know them? Is it based on their title, status or position they occupy in society? Is it determined by what favor or service they have rendered to you in the past? Does it matter on how much you like them or on how much you think they like you?
Normally, its human nature to treat people differently according to the situation, the greatest standard for interacting with others is called the Golden Rule. It clearly means that you treat others the way you like others to treat you. Each and every human being wished to be treated with due respect, dignity, self-esteem and honour. It’s really vital that we value others not only for what they do for us but simply because they are human being remains the foundation of the Golden Rule.
We as human beings, do not like if others ignore us, take advantage of us or somehow hurt our feelings. All people at their very core desire to be treated well irrespective of their age, gender, race, colour, creed or nationality. Ponder on the following five truths on how people want to be treated.

1. Each individual wants to be valued. Have you ever been disgraced by another person? If yes, then you know how important it is to be valued by another human being. Some individual even pester people and drill them down to make them feel low and discredit. In their inner self all individual want to feel that they matter thus enabling them to feel who they are. When you value people they can sense it. As human being we can’t define someone personality. It’s judicial that everybody wants to feel valued and to reflect they own personality.

2. Every Person wants to be appreciated. Each of us as human being has something to contribute to this world. People feel valued when their effort and contribution are appreciated by others. No matter what crops up it needs not act as a barrier for you to encourage and appreciate others. Donald Laird advised, “Develop your skill in making other people feel important and valued”. The best compliment you can pay individual is helping them to be useful and to find satisfaction in their usefulness.

3. Every Person wants to be respected. Arnold Glasow said, “The respect of those you respect is worth than the multitude of applause”. Most people crave for the respect of their families, loved ones, colleagues and acquaintances. It doesn’t cost you a single penny to express respect towards individuals, yet it provides them so much of dignity, self- respect and confidence.

4. Every person wants to be understood. Understanding people around you and in your area leads to extending yourself to them and matching their level thus putting the burden of understanding on yourself, not them. On your quest for understanding others, you may discover that People think differently because they haven’t had the advantages you have had, or they may be reacting to situations that are beyond their control. According to John Maxwell “your interaction with others sets the tone of your day. It’s like the music of your life. When your interaction with others is poor, it’s like having to listen to cacophonous music. But when you place a high value on people and you treat them well, it’s like listening to a sweet melody as you go through your day”.

5. Every person wants to be listened. Lending your ears to a conversation without disruption automatically hits the other person feelings and enabling them to feel valued, appreciated and respected. They feel flattered with pride and dignity.

When you value every person, you will experience the following benefits:
1. You become less egotistic

2. You develop a positive attitude

3. You become more affable and attractive to everyone around you

4. You learn from others because you notice value in them

5. You indulge in team building through greater contribution from team members

Steps to follow
1. Think less about yourself and more about others. Concentrating on yourself and your own interest will obviously deprive you to value others. The common practice is that people devalue others to get forward in life. However, success at the expense of others is ultimately unfulfilling. Moving forward a hand for assistance is better than the folded hands that pray to God. Giving is more rewarding.

2. Practice the Golden Rule. Treat others with respect, appreciation, and understanding. This rule does not require education, talent, skill, or success. The vital thing is that the only thing required are the will to do what’s right and the intention to follow through.

3. See everyone as a “10”. When rating someone on a scale of 1 (worst) to 10 (best) try to see everyone as a 10. You must assume the very best of every person and expects the best in them. Sometimes it becomes disappointed because you do not become responsible for others’ actions. You need to be confident that you have tried your best to value others and treat them well.

Selfishness, arrogance, position and status sometimes compels individual to focus only on their own interests. This actions often leads to undervalue people. Remember that success and recognition at the expense of others leads to temporary fulfillment. In fact, we can contribute to this world through our positive actions. Actions speaks louder than words. Leaving our prints through our noble actions will surely raise our goodwill in society that can be cherished for everlasting moments. Eventually, you can be a scholar with multiple degrees but if you as a human being can’t assist the handicap, the blind or the old aged persons to cross the road it’s better that you bury all your certificates into ashes as it does not serve any purpose.

Author: – Atil kumar Reekoye
Business Consultant


Communicating in the most adverse moment, grief.

Grief, as the word gloom our minds and shaken our souls, are expressed in different ways. No two persons can express grief in the identical way, a loss is a loss engraved forever in our hearts and shaken our foundation or our world simply.
As grief strikes it can disparage our most prominent capabilities to incapability. In harsh moments, one can stop talking or even incapable to cry and shed the tears of pain, while some lose their motor skills. As all can be affected, then communication skills as well is struck in between the heart and the mind. It can’t be denied that communication is so hemmed in our lives such a way that no moment of our journey on earth is gone without us communicating, be it verbally or non verbally. Great psychologists or even our sociologists are challenged to find causes and theories to associate to understand and define such behaviors. Expressing grief doesn’t stop even though time has healed the pain, but the loss exists. Feelings might not be expressed openly, sometimes those unexpressed communication form another personality of a person, and it might be split personality disorders. It can happen to anyone be it an employee, a leader, a manger, a child or anyone but dealing with such persons becomes very difficult as the communication has stopped. Encoding of the pain and expressions are smudged with anger and other feelings none related to depression. This phase often envelopes the person in a cocoon, sometimes showing such an introvert or extrovert personality, which makes the task difficult to detect the iceberg. Many suicidal tendencies arises and the act is done before even noticing the slightest appeal of help.
After the loss, it might be that the intense feeling of grief strikes in waves, usually when found alone , while doing things like bathing, doing dishes, or while dressing up for work. Suddenly the pain attacks your very existence, when tears flow nonstop and breathing becomes very difficult. It is like all of sudden oxygen has been deprived of your lungs and the heart is full of blood to be able to beat. The heartbeat thunders on your chest echoing to the throat, and words or shout can’t be expressed. The brain wants to communicate but words aren’t found. The uttering of words jumbled together makes verbal communication so hard as if language never existed. Meaning of words become meaningless and some common words become stranger to the pronunciation as well. While the person cannot communicate, it’s mostly difficult to understand what can be felt and at that moment when grief strikes to the maximum volume, no one is around to be receptive of the alert. Verbally when asked those persons if they are alright and how they are doing would be inexact words or question. Those persons that kind of breaking the ice would not be accurate to determine their feelings and make them communicate their grief. Answering such question will automatically make the lips state that they are fine and doing good , getting over it, while the eyes will tell another story line, the heart beating another tune and the soul cries inside the body. Usually those nonverbal cues are seen by the posture of the person itself and by the watery eyes but tear less expression. Grieving is so personal and cannot be determined when it shall be over by anyone except the person, and those who haven’t understood never lost a part of their heart. Some may take one whole year while some take lesser time, but overall grieving is Grief Communication.
“The most painful tears are not the ones that fall from your eyes and cover your face. It’s the ones that fall from your heart and cover your soul.”
It’s an unending writing which shall continue ….. And grief isn’t only losing someone to death, but also parting ways with a loved one in another pathway.

Author: Khema Bhagwan


Leaving with one beautiful quote:
They say I’m sorry for your loss
They say your heart will mend.
They say you’re in a better place and death is not the end.
They say you’re reunited with loved ones gone before.
They say that you’ll be waiting when I walk through heaven’s door.
I feel their love in every word of comfort they impart
And know that each is spoken from deep within the heart.
But all the words of comfort, though kind, sincere, and true,
Can’t take away the emptiness
I’m feeling without you.



The Power of Self-Confidence: Unleashing Your Full Potential

Self-confidence, often described as the cornerstone of success and personal fulfillment, is a trait that empowers individuals to overcome challenges, pursue their goals, and lead more rewarding lives. Rooted in a deep understanding and appreciation of oneself, self-confidence serves as the driving force behind one’s actions, decisions, and interactions with the world. While it may appear as a simple concept, the impact of self-confidence is profound, shaping the course of careers, relationships, and overall well-being.

Defining Self-Confidence

At its core, self-confidence can be defined as a positive belief in one’s abilities, worth, and potential. It’s the inner assurance that allows individuals to embrace opportunities, tackle obstacles, and navigate life’s uncertainties with resilience. Self-confidence is not arrogance or an over-inflated ego; rather, it’s a balanced perception of oneself that acknowledges strengths and weaknesses while maintaining a constructive attitude.

The Building Blocks of Self-Confidence

Developing self-confidence is a dynamic process that encompasses various aspects of personal growth. Understanding these building blocks can provide insights into nurturing and cultivating self-confidence:

  1. Self-Awareness: A crucial foundation for self-confidence, self-awareness involves recognizing one’s strengths, weaknesses, values, and aspirations. When individuals have a clear understanding of who they are, they can make more informed decisions and set realistic goals.
  2. Positive Self-Talk: The inner dialogue plays a pivotal role in shaping self-confidence. Positive self-talk involves replacing self-doubt and negative thoughts with affirmations and constructive encouragement. By reframing their mental chatter, individuals can boost their self-esteem and belief in their capabilities.
  3. Skill Mastery: Competence breeds confidence. Acquiring and honing skills relevant to one’s goals not only enhances expertise but also instills a sense of achievement. The journey of skill development provides evidence of progress, reinforcing self-confidence along the way.
  4. Setting and Achieving Goals: Setting achievable goals and working toward them systematically is a powerful method for boosting self-confidence. Each goal achieved serves as a testament to one’s abilities, encouraging further strides in personal development.
  5. Embracing Failure: Failure is an inevitable part of any journey. Developing self-confidence involves seeing failures as learning opportunities rather than setbacks. Embracing failures with a growth mindset allows individuals to bounce back stronger and more determined.
  6. Self-Care: Physical and mental well-being significantly influence self-confidence. Prioritizing self-care activities, such as exercise, healthy eating, and mindfulness practices, can create a positive feedback loop where improved well-being fuels higher self-confidence.

The Impact of Self-Confidence

The influence of self-confidence reverberates across various aspects of life:

  1. Career Success: In the professional realm, self-confidence is often the catalyst that propels individuals to pursue leadership roles, voice their ideas, and take calculated risks. Confident employees tend to be more innovative and adaptable, driving organizational growth.
  2. Interpersonal Relationships: Self-confidence affects how individuals interact with others. Healthy self-confidence enables effective communication, assertiveness, and the ability to set boundaries, leading to more fulfilling relationships.
  3. Risk-Taking: The willingness to step outside one’s comfort zone and take risks is closely tied to self-confidence. Whether starting a new venture or pursuing an unconventional path, self-assured individuals are more likely to embrace uncertainty and seize opportunities.
  4. Mental Health: Self-confidence acts as a buffer against negative thoughts and emotions. It promotes resilience in the face of challenges and reduces the impact of stress and anxiety, contributing to better mental well-being.
  5. Personal Growth: Self-confidence is intertwined with personal growth. As individuals challenge themselves and achieve new milestones, their self-confidence expands, creating a cycle of continuous development.

Cultivating Self-Confidence

Cultivating self-confidence is an ongoing journey that requires patience, self-compassion, and consistent effort. Here are strategies to foster and strengthen self-confidence:

  1. Practice Self-Compassion: Treating oneself with kindness and understanding, especially during moments of failure or self-doubt, is essential. Self-compassion encourages resilience and prevents self-criticism from eroding self-confidence.
  2. Visualize Success: Visualization is a technique where individuals mentally rehearse successful outcomes. By vividly imagining themselves achieving their goals, they build a sense of familiarity and confidence in their capabilities.
  3. Celebrate Achievements: Acknowledging and celebrating even small achievements reinforces the belief in one’s abilities. Each success becomes a building block that supports higher levels of self-confidence.
  4. Challenge Negative Beliefs: Identifying and challenging negative beliefs about oneself is crucial. Often, these beliefs are based on past experiences or societal conditioning. Actively replacing them with positive affirmations can reshape self-perception.
  5. Seek Feedback: Constructive feedback from mentors, peers, or professionals can provide valuable insights for improvement. Accepting feedback with an open mind demonstrates humility and a commitment to growth.
  6. Continuous Learning: Engaging in lifelong learning and skill development not only enhances expertise but also boosts self-confidence. Acquiring new knowledge demonstrates adaptability and a willingness to embrace challenges.

In Conclusion

Self-confidence is a dynamic and transformative trait that empowers individuals to reach their full potential. By nurturing self-awareness, practicing positive self-talk, embracing failure, and setting and achieving goals, individuals can cultivate a strong foundation of self-confidence. The impact of self-confidence extends to all areas of life, from career success and relationships to personal growth and mental well-being. As individuals continue their journey of self-discovery and self-improvement, the unwavering belief in their abilities will propel them to embrace opportunities, conquer challenges, and lead more fulfilling lives.


Author: Dharmendra Bonomaully

Softskills Trainer